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10 Tips to Kick the Backbiting Bug

Backbiting is easy to commit. A perfectly acceptable conversation can take a nasty turn in an instant. You can find yourself backbiting without even realising how it happened. Someone asked the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) about backbiting and he said, “It is to mention about a man what he does not want to hear.” He said, “Messenger of Allah! Even if it is true?” The Messenger of Allah (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) said, “If you utter something false, then it is slander.” (Muwatta)

Many people do not realise how broadly ‘backbiting’ is defined. Backbiting includes listening as well as making statements. It can be done by words, a glance, gestures, or writing. That a person might make the same statement (verbal or otherwise) in the presence of the absent person is no excuse.

The gravity of backbiting is reflected in Allah Ta'ala's description of it: “Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?” (49:12)

And the punishment is severe, as described by the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam), “When I was taken up to heaven I passed by people who had nails of copper and were scratching their faces and their breasts. I said: ‘Who are these people, Gabriel?’ He replied: ‘ They are those who were given to backbiting and who aspersed people’s honour.’” (Dawud)

Fortunately, backbiting can be avoided. Here are 10 tips that should help you curb this nasty habit:

 

1. Increase your knowledge


Islam is a religion for thinkers. We are expected to learn our deen and to research what we do not understand. Allah Ta'ala instructs in the Qu’ran, “And say: ‘My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.” ( Ta-ha:114)

A person cannot adequately address backbiting unless she knows the Islamic rulings that govern it. Each of us has the responsibility to learn what constitutes as backbiting, when it is permissible to speak about an absent person and what to do after we backbite.

 

2. Avoid people who talk about others

Some people have very little to say if they are not talking about someone else. I once told someone close to me about theIslamic prohibition against backbiting and she replied, “Then, we’ll have nothing to talk about.” The sad thing was she was right. Avoid conversations with those who will not stop backbiting, even if you lose a friend or two.

3. Avoid places of gossip

The infamous “water cooler” is well-known as a meeting place for exchanging office gossip. University cafeterias and other lunchroom settings are other notorious places for spreading rumours. The internet with its chat rooms and blogs provides a nearly limitless opportunity to backbite. If every time you eat at the lunchroom, you become involved in backbiting, then find another place to eat. If backbiting is prevalent in certain chat rooms, surf the web for other sites. The point is that you should not place yourself in a setting where backbiting is the norm, because you will become involved in it.

 

4. Don’t ask leading questions

Seemingly innocuous questions can lead to backbiting: “I haven’t seen so-and-so for a while. How is she doing?” Instead of getting a simple reply, the response might be “Did you hear that she … ” Some scholars advise not to ask about an absent person for fear of backbiting.

5. Stop backbiting the first time it happens

If you are in a new situation and people around you start backbiting, let them know immediately that you cannot be involved in such conversations. Make it clear from the beginning where you stand. If you are in a group of non-Muslims who likely do not understand the gravity of backbiting, it presents a great da’wah opportunity. One need not be hostile or self-righteous. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) stated: “Keep to gentleness and avoid harshness and coarseness. Gentleness is not found in anything without adorning it, and is not withdrawn from anything without shaming it.” (Muslim)

 

6. Let people know you are trying not to backbite

The more difficult task is to stop backbiting with people whom you have previously engaged in backbiting. A good way to change the dynamic is to let them know the next time you talk with them that you are working hard not to backbite and ask them to help you with it. If backbiting creeps up in the conversation, gently remind them about what you are trying to do. Perhaps, your efforts will encourage them to do the same. If not, refer to Tip #2.

 

7. Maintain a policy with friends to remind each other not to backbite

Make a commitment with your friends to help each other not to backbite. If you discuss it beforehand, your friends should feel comfortable reminding you if you slip and you should feel comfortable reminding them if they slip. A simple statement such as “Uh oh, I think we may be getting close to backbiting,” should be enough to turn the conversation in the right direction.

8. Play it safe

“He who keeps silence will be safe.” (Ahmad, Tirmidhi) The safest course to avoid backbiting is not to talk about people who are not present in the conversation. If you start with that rule and allow only a few exceptions, you will drastically limit the opportunities to backbite.

9. Forgive those who backbite about you

We all make mistakes and Allah Ta'ala knows that we will sin. We are taught how to repent and how to ask Allah, al-Ghafur, al-Raheem, for forgiveness. We are also encouraged to forgive others as mentioned in the Qur’an: “And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give to their kinsmen, Al-Masakin (the needy), and those who left their homes for Allah’s Cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (24:22)

Al-Hasan al-Basri explained that what it means to repel evil with good, “When they are deprived, they give; and when they are wronged, they forgive.”

In short, if someone backbites you, forgive them – perhaps you will be treated in the same fashion.

 

10. Remember death often

Since the time of the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam), Muslims have been reminded of the brevity of this life and the consequences in the Hereafter. Some scholars reportedly dug graves in their homes and lay in them to remind themselves that one day they would be in the grave and no longer able to repent for their sins. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) sought refuge in Allah Ta'ala from punishment in the grave and we are encouraged to do so as well. When one realises that death can occur at any time and that even the next moment is not guaranteed, the urgency to stop oneself from backbiting becomes very real.

Author : J. Samia Mair

 




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Wilpattu - Fact, fiction and reality - by Latheef farook

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sunday observerby Latheef Farook :

Musali South in the Mannar District has traditionally been a predominantly Muslim populated area for centuries. Their peaceful life was devastated in October 1990 when they were kicked out of their homes and lands within two hours by the LTTE when it ethnic cleansed the entire Northern Muslims.

Since then, they languished in refugee camps and temporary shelters in extreme hardships.

After the military defeat of LTTE in 2009, Muslims started to return to their lands to resume their devastated life. However racist forces with their own sinister agenda, hell bent on causing problems to Muslims, have falsely accused them of encroaching Wilpattu and triggered off a controversy to them from returning to their lands to which they have deeds and permits.

Document

Explaining the situation in her preface to a document on Musali South, Prof Sivamohan Sumathy of Peradeniya University said, "the return of the Displaced in Musali South has evoked a variety of responses and competing claims that have taken on national and nationalist proportions.

The returning population of Musali South have tried to eke out a living in the midst of harsh conditions, unaided by state forces for the most part. Yet, the region has become needlessly entangled in a controversy over environmentalism. While the Navy has claimed large acres of land for its own entrenchment in the region, environmentalists have accused settlers, the IDPs, who have returned and staked out a claim for their lands, as destroyers of forest.

wilpattu masjidThe displaced people of Musali South, account for some of the most marginalized sections of the population, but the debate that the putative return has spurred in the media and in political circles has cast them as adversaries of both nature and the state".

A six member team of academics led by Prof Shahul H. Hasbullah of Peradeniya University has prepared an extensive research document on the issue of Musali South Muslims returning to their lands under the title "Denying the Right to Return - Resettlement in Musali South and the Wilpattu Controversy." With a plea "Help Us Return Home" people of Musali South appeal to all to help them return to their lands and homes with dignity and self respect to end their more than three and half decade old sufferings.

Explaining the background in his author's note, Prof Shahul H Hasbulla stated that;

"When the "Wilpattu controversy" flared up, the turn of the debate surprised me. I knew for certain that the contested area in question was not located in Wilpattu. In a published newspaper article, I emphasized the issue of returnees, which in my view, is the crux of the matter. But the ongoing debate paid no attention to this issue. To the contrary, the public discourse continuously labelled returnees as 'criminals'.

Truth

"The bleak situation spurred me to take on the mission of uncovering the truth. I visited all corners of "Musali South" to get to know its history and its peoples, reflecting on the claims and counter claims of land ownership.

"I learned from the people who were paddy, chena and cattle farmers; sea, lagoon, river and tank fisher folk; teachers, religious dignitaries; men, women, young and children of all ethnic (Tamils, Muslims and Sinhala), religious (Catholic, Hindu, Muslims, Buddhist) and linguistic (Tamil and Sinhala) communities.

"According to our findings people have lived in the Musali Region for generations. They toiled on this land and roamed the region for various livelihood activities without any interruption, while keeping the tradition of protecting the forest and the environment.

"They are a part of the nature and culture of the region. For more than two decades, the people have been displaced - until today. They have a right to return to their homes". Thus concluded Prof Hasbullah.

Muslims, in fact, had nothing to do with the devastating ethnic war between successive governments and the LTTE. However sandwiched between the two they suffered immense and the plight of Musali South Muslims was no exception.

While Musali South Muslims were in refugee camps the Rajapaksa Government had acquired a major part of their traditional lands under various pretexts knowing very well that the owners would claim this land once the ethnic war ends.

Acquisition

First around 40% of their traditional lands in the Musali South was acquired. This was followed by the acquisition of another 30 percent of their land without any consultation or consent to establish security Establishments. Added to this Muslims owned lands were acquired to establish a naval agricultural project. Furthermore, a Navy Regional Commanding Office was established in two prominent villages and the Muslims were prevented from entering their lands, dwellings and other properties.

Thus, Musali South Muslims were deceived and deprived large extent of their traditional lands.

wilpattu bbsJudging from the subsequent anti Muslim campaign under Rajapaksa government aimed at virtually eliminating the Muslim community it is not difficult to realize now that Muslim owned Musali South lands were acquired deliberately to deprive Muslims of their lands.

Commenting on the controversy Prof Arjuna Parakrama of University of Peradeniya stated in the special document that;

"The issue of resettlement in Musali - Wilpattu has divided and destroyed relationships built up among "progressive" groups who hitherto shared similar positions on other national concerns. Environmental activists allowed this discourse to be narrowly ethnicised, and emulated populist majoritarian rabble rousers in their passion to "save Wilpattu" from what they saw as corrupt and opportunist minority politicians.

"A small band of human rights professionals and academics who took up the cause of the displaced were unable to disentangle themselves from the political leadership that was using the issue in at least of the ways that the environmental lobby claimed.

"The media exploited all of this - generally on the side of the single-issue environmentalists - to rekindle anti-Muslim sentiment among the Sinhala polity. As a result, those who had no interest in the preservation of wildlife became passionate campaigners, while dedicated eco-types transformed into ethno-nationalists overnight. In all of this the affected people remained voiceless - pawns in a series of chess games - and this denial of agency is as damaging as the continued deprivation of their rights".

Relations

Meanwhile, Prof M.A. Nuhman lamented that six years have passed since the war ended and the ethnic relations in the country further deteriorated because of the short sighted political leadership that encouraged ethnic tension and fear in the country to further their own agendas.

Resettlement of internally displaced people is one of the major issues today that demands an immediate solution in post war Sri Lanka. Hundreds of thousands of people from all three communities were displaced internally during the war, losing their houses, land and sources of livelihood; most of them are not resettled so far and they are longing for return to their own soil to live peacefully.

To this day, we have not been able to formulate a national policy of resettlement to resolve the problem of the displaced people justly and permanently. Therefore, resettlement programmes are being carried out in an ad hoc manner and have led to further problems and tensions among the communities. Resettlement in Musali South is a case in point.

 

ජාතික ගීය දෙමළෙන් ගැයීමේ වරදක් නෑ: බෙල්ලන්විල නාහිමි

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Image captionදෙමළ ජනතාව ජාතික ගීය දෙමළෙන් ගැයීම ඇතැමුන්ගේ ප්‍රබල විවේචනයට ලක් වී තිබුණි

ශ්‍රී ලංකා ජාතික ගීය නිසි තනුවට අනුකූලව දෙමළ භාෂාවෙන් ගැයීමේ කිසිදු වරදක් නොදකින බව ශ්‍රී ජයවර්ධනපුර විශ්ව විද්‍යාලයේ කුලපති මහාචාර්යබෙල්ලන්විල විමලරතන නායක හිමියෝ පවසති.

නායක හිමියන් ඒ බව කියා සිටියේ, නව ව්‍යවස්ථා සම්පාදන ක්‍රියාවලියට අදාලව බුද්ධ ශාසන කාර්ය සාධක මණ්ඩලය විසින් ආණ්ඩුව වෙත ඉදිරිපත් කරන ලද පහළොස් වැදෑරුම් ඉල්ලීම් මාලාව පිළිබඳව බීබීසී සංදේශය වෙත අදහස් දක්වමින්.

"ජාතික ගීය කියන්නේ එකයිනේ? ඒක වෙනස් කරන්නේ නෑ. නමුත් ඒ තනුවම දෙමළ ජාතිකයන්ට තමන්ගේ භාෂාවෙන් කියන්න අවසර දුන්නයි කියල බරපතල ලෙස විරුද්ධ වෙන්න දෙයක් නෑ," එහිමියෝ සඳහන් කළහ.

බුදු දහම ආරක්ෂා කිරීම

බුදු දහම ආරක්ෂා කොට, පෝෂණය කරන බවට වත්මන් ව්‍යවස්ථාවේ නම වැනි වගන්තියෙන් ලබා දී තිබෙන ආරක්ෂාව නව ව්‍යවස්ථාව මගින්ද සහතික කිරීම බුද්ධ ශාසන කාර්ය සාධක මණ්ඩලය විසින් ජනාධිපති මෛත්‍රීපාල සිරිසේන සහ අගමැති රනිල් වික්‍රමසිංහ වෙත යොමු කර ඇති ලිපියේ ප්‍රධානම ඉල්ලීමයි.

Image copyrightYouTube.comImage caption'ප්‍රශ්නේ තියෙන්නේ සමහර රජයන් තුල ඒ බලධාරීන් නීතිය අතට ගෙන ක්‍රියාකිරීමයි. ඒවා සිදු නොවෙනවා නම් නීතියේ ප්‍රශ්නයක් නෑ'

රාජ්‍ය බුදු දහම රැකගනිමින් පෝෂණය කළ යුතු බවට වගන්තියක් මුලින්ම ඇතුලත් කෙරුණේ ආචාර්ය කොල්වින් ආර් ද සිල්වාගේ ප්‍රමුඛත්වයෙන් සම්පාදනය කරන ලද 1972 ජනරජ ව්‍යවස්ථාවටයි.

එම වගන්තිය මගින් තමන් නොලකා හැර ඇතැයි රටේ වෙසෙන සුළු වාර්ගික, සුළු ආගමික ජනකොටස්වලට හැඟී යන්නට ඉඩ තිබෙන්නේ නොවේදැයි විමසූ අවස්ථාවේ මාහාචාර්ය විමලරත්න හිමියන් සඳහන් කළේ, කිසියම් රටක ප්‍රධානම ආගම රැකගැනීමට රාජ්‍යය බැදී සිටිය යුතුය යන්න ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ පමණක් පවතින සම්ප්‍රදායයක් නොවන බවයි.

"ඉතින් මේක තිබුණයි කියල අනෙකුත් ආගම්වලට හානියක් සිද්දවෙලා නැහැ. ඒ ආගම්නුත් ආරක්ෂා කළ යුතුයි කියලා ඒ සමඟ ඊළඟ වගන්තිය තියෙනව. ඒ ආගම්වල සියලු කටයුතුන් ඒ ආකාරයෙන් කෙරෙනවා කිසිම බාධාවක් නැහැ,"එහිමියෝ පැවසූහ.

හයිබ්‍රිඩ් අධිකරණය

ශ්‍රී ලංකාව අනාගමික රාජ්‍යයක් බවට පත්විය යුතුය යන්න 'එක්තරා විදියකින් අන්තවාදී ලෙස බලන අය' ඉදිරිපත් කරණ මතයක් බව පවසන එහිමියෝ ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ අනාගමික රාජ්‍යයක් බිහිකිරීමේ අවශ්‍යතාවයක් නොමැති බව අවධාරණය කරති.

ශ්‍රී ලංකාව දිගටම ඒකීය රාජ්‍යයක් වශයෙන් පැවතිය යුතුය යන්න ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ ප්‍රධාන පෙළේ බෞද්ධ භික්ෂුන් වහන්සේ සහ බෞද්ධ නායකයන් පිරිසකගේ අත්සනින් යුතුව බුද්ධ ශාසන කාර්ය සාධක මණ්ඩලය ඉදිරිපත් කර තිබෙන ලිපියේ අඩංගු තවත් යෝජනාවක්.

Image copyrightGettyImage caption'ඒකීය රාජ්‍යයක්, මේ රට එකක් හැටියට තියෙන්න ඕන කියන එක අද විපක්ෂනායක සම්බන්ධන් මහත්මයත් ප්‍රකාශ කරනවා. ඒ තුල බලය බෙදාගන්න ක්‍රමවේදයක් හදාගන්න බාධාවක් නැහැ'

"ඒකීය රාජ්‍යයක්, මේ රට එකක් හැටියට තියෙන්න ඕන කියන එක අද විපක්ෂනායක සම්බන්ධන් මහත්මයත් ප්‍රකාශ කරනවා. ඒ තුල බලය බෙදාගන්න ක්‍රමවේදයක් හදාගන්න බාධාවක් නැහැ." ( මහාචාර්ය බෙල්ලන්විල විමලරතන නායක හිමියන් සමඟ සාකච්ඡාවට සවන්දෙන්න)

ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ අධිකරණ ක්‍රියාදාමයට ඇඟිලි ගැසීමට විදේශීය රටවලට හෝ ආයතනවලට අවසර නොදිය යුතු බවටද බෞද්ධ නායකයෝ ආණ්ඩුවෙන් ඉල්ලා සිටිති.

එක්සත් ජාතීන්ගේ මානව හිමිකම් මණ්ඩලයේ සම්මත වූ යෝජනාව ප්‍රකාරහයිබ්‍රිඩ් අධිකරණයක් පිහිටුවීමට විරුද්ධ බව එහි අදහස දැයි සංදේශය කළ විමසීමට පිළිතුරු දුන් මහාචාර්ය විමලරත්න නාහිමියන් කියා සිටියේ, ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ ජාත්‍යන්තර ප්‍රඥප්තීන්ට අනුකූලව ස්වාධීන දේශීය අධිකරණ ක්‍රියාදාමයක් පවත්වාගෙන යාමට ශ්‍රී ලංකාවට හැකියාව පවතින බවයි.

ද්විත්ව පුරවැසියෝ

"ඒක බටහිර අයට ඕන හැටියට ලංකාවේ අධිකරණ හදන්න බැහැනේ? නමුත් ඔය රෝමන්, ලන්දේසි නීතිය නෞසාරයෙන් තමයි අද බොහෝ රටවල නීතිය හදල තියෙන්නේ," එහිමියෝ පැවසූහ.

"ප්‍රශ්නේ තියෙන්නේ සමහර රජයන් තුල ඒ බලධාරීන් නීතිය අතට ගෙන ක්‍රියාකිරීමයි. ඒවා සිදු නොවෙනවා නම් නීතියේ ප්‍රශ්නයක් නෑ."

Image copyrightAFPImage captionබුදු දහම ආරකෂා කිරීමේ වගන්තිය 'තිබුණයි කියල අනෙකුත් ආගම්වලට හානියක් සිද්දවෙලා නැහැ. ඒ ආගම්නුත් ආරක්ෂා කළ යුතුයි කියලා ඒ සමඟ ඊළඟ වගන්තිය තියෙනව'

ජාතික ධජය වෙනස් නොකිරීම, පාර්ලිමේන්තුවේ උත්තරීතරභාවය ආරක්ෂා කිරීම, ජාතිය හෝ ආගම මත පදනම්ව පළාත් නොබෙදීම ඇතුළු ප්‍රධාන කරුණු 15 ක් බෞද්ධ නායකයන්ගේ එම ලිපියට ඇතුලත්.

වෙනත් රටවල පුරවැසිභාවය හිමි කිසිවෙකුටත් ජනපති, මැති, ඇමති තනතුරු හෝ රාජ්‍යයේ ඉහල නිලතල දැරීමේ අවස්තාව ලබා නොදිය යුතු බවත් බෞද්ධ නායකයෝ අවධාරණය කරති.

"ඒක ඇත්තනේ? රටවල් දෙකක කකුල් දෙක තියාගෙන වැඩකරන්න බෑනේ? නමුත් පහුගිය කාලේ එහෙම දේවල් කෙරුනා. එයාට ඕන වෙලාවක වරදක් කරලා මේ රටෙන් අනෙක් පුරවැසිභාවය ලබාගෙන ඉන්න රටට පැනල යන්න පුලුවන්."

එබැවින් ද්විත්ව පුරවැසියන්ට ඉහල තනතුරු දැරීමේ අවස්තාව අහිමි කරන මෙන් ඉල්ලා සිටීම අසාධාරණ ඉල්ලීමක් නොවන බවයි, මහාචාර්ය බෙල්ලන්විල විමලරතන නායක හිමියන් වැඩිදුරටත් සඳහන් කළේ.

මේ පුවතට සම්බන්ධ තවත් විස්තර

   

Year-end Audit

By Abdur Rahmaan Umar

Zaid peered at the multi-coloured graphs scattered on the table, some half buried beneath paper-piles of calculations. Taking a cautious step back, he ran his hand through is untidy mop of hair, a few flakes of dandruff floated gently down to rest on his shoulder.

“What’s up, brother?” he questioned, gently prodding Yusuf on his shoulder.

Yusuf barely looked up and continued tapping away at his keyboard. Numbers flew across the screen giving birth to multi-coloured graphs.

Zaid prodded him again, forcing his chair to glide away from the desk, “What’s with the graphs?”

Yusuf pulled himself back into position sending a few pages drifting to the floor, “Year-end audit,” he mumbled, as he reached for the fugitive pages.

Zaid bent his head low, brushing his falling mop out of his eyes, looking at Yusuf in the eye, he exclaimed, “Let me get this right! Just let me get this right!” he sighed deeply. “You, Doctor Yusuf Ismail working for a government clinic are doing a year-end audit?”

Throwing his arms in the air in mock defeat, he continued, “What in the world do you need to do an audit for? You get your salary, you spend your salary and you see what’s left, simple! What’s to audit?”

He pulled a brightly coloured graph off the table and peered at it intensely. Yusuf gently tugged the sheet away from him, turned it around and handed it back, “Upside down,” he said, straightening the papers close to him.

“Ok so what’s this,” asked Zaid reading from the page, “Salaah analysis? What kind of year end audit is this?”

Yusuf nudged his chair away from the table spinning round to face Yusuf, “That’s what I’m analysing! My salaah and other religious actions.”

“But why?” queried Zaid, cocking his head to one side scattering a few more flakes of dandruff.

“So I can see if I’m improving or not”

Zaid dusted his shoulders and making vain efforts to bring his hair under control, sending a fresh crop of dandruff snow. Cupping his puzzled face in his hands, he asked, “I don’t understand. I really don’t understand.”

“Let me explain”

“Yes, please do! ‘Cause I really don’t understand why you doing year end audit stuff on your salaah, charity and Quran.”

“You see,” explained Yusuf, taking a long sip from his bottle of Voss mineral water, “Sheikh Hamaad was explaining some time ago that time passes, and with every passing year we come closer to our end.”

“Hey yes, tell me about time passing,” interjected Zaid, “It’s another year gone, the Haajjis are back and next week  we start all over again. Crazy how time’s flying.”

“Time will pass,” continued Yusuf draining the last of his bottled water, “But what we do with that time is our choice. We can use it in good or bad.”

“True! But what’s that got to do with this year-end stuff?”

Yusuf flashed an irritated glance at his friend, “Will you let me finish?”

“Ok, ok me I’m silent. You be the lecturer then” laughed Zaid putting his finger on his lips, “I will be the silent student.”

“That’s better,” exclaimed Yusuf, “Sheikh explained that time is valuable and that Allah Ta'ala even took an oath on time in surah Asr (Qur’an 103: 1-2) to emphasise its importance.”

Zaid began reciting, “By time, verily man is at a loss

Yusuf frowned and said, “I thought you were going to be quiet”

“But this is Quran! Can’t be quiet for Quran,” replied Zaid, staring delinquently at his hands.

“So every year passes and if we don’t check on ourselves the time will just go by and in the end we will be the losers. Hazrat Umar (Radia Allahu anhu) used to say – take your own reckoning before your reckoning is taken,” Yusuf paused, reaching for another bottle of water from under his desk.

“You’re a heavy drinker,” chuckled Zaid.

“And you’re a lousy listener,” complained Yusuf flinging a crumpled page at his friend.

“If we don’t check what we doing,” he sighed, “and that’s what I was trying to do, before you rudely interrupted me, then we will not progress. Sheikh explained that every good business checks its program every month if not daily. And, you could see all the sharp traders in the audience nodding their heads. But if we check then we will know where we can improve and progress.”

“You mean like improve our Aaghirah(Hereafter) profits?” interrupted a smug smile crossing his lips. “We can make the big time up there.”

Yusuf threw another crumpled page, “I give up with you! But yes, that’s the whole thing. If we focus on developing our spiritual selves as much as we do other things we will iron out the problems, and progress so that we are not losers in the end.”

“So I was comparing my salaah, how many I prayed with Jamaat (congregation) and on time. That’s that graph you holding. See, I improved on Esha but Fajr is still my problem, gotta work on that one. So that’s my focus for the next year –Fajr with Jamaat(congregation)!”

“You’ve done pretty well since you started checking on this, exclaimed Zaid waving the page triumphantly in the air, “From one with jamaat to four. That’s a three hundred percent increase. Wow!”

Yusuf looked away bashfully not intending his details be exposed, “Alhamdulillah, only by the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala. When you determined to do some good then Allah Ta'ala will help you. But if I wasn’t checking then I wouldn’t have been aware and I wouldn’t have made the effort to change. I would have been happy with my condition and then regretted in the end.”

“So I check every-day,” he said, proudly waiving his iPhone , “I even have an App called Qamr Deen to record this on a daily basis.”

“Ok, doctor Accountant”, mocked Zaid, “I think you are a techno freak but come let’s draw up some fancy charts for me too. Come next year  I also want to show a profit”

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Pleased with Allah’s Decree

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By :Mariam Anwer

 

WHEN there is just one son, parents have to make him live with them; when there are several, it’s easier, as some of them can go abroad. After all, parents should not be left all alone. That is why one should have many children,’ says a mother-of-five empathetically. I remain silent, not agreeing with her simply because not everyone is blessed with children.


My mind shifts to some childless couples and unmarried people I know.

If Allah has kept them barren, what should their outlook be on life during old age?

Should they constantly be complaining to Allah for the fate decreed on them, or should they accept their fate and be content with it, achieving peace of mind?

 

Almost anyone and everyone can choose to be ungrateful. A short person may wistfully look at taller people and lament on his or her natural stature; a pauper sitting on the curb may stare enviously at the glamorous cars passing by; a blind person can very well gripe about not being able to see; and of course how slightly dark-skinned people wish they had fairer skin.

 

If one were to cave in to negative thinking, ungratefulness and wistfulness for the blessings one has supposedly missed out on in life, he or she would be losing on something greater: the blessings they have been granted by Allah! Life’s just too short to lose the good moments wishing for what was not meant to be yours in the first place.

 

The tendency to be ungrateful and negative in thinking is admittedly more common in women; this is a fact that has been mentioned in several Ahadith.


It is common to behold an unmarried girl, desperately wondering why a decent proposal has not come her way. As years pass by, the pressure to marry her off mounts on her parents.


A married woman who has not conceived a child will despair hopelessly, as she hears of the third pregnancy of a friend who got married a year after she did.

 

Another mother-of-three, standing in her tiny kitchen, may be crying hot tears of envy at thoughts of how other women her age live in compound villas with 24-hour maids. The cycle of ingratitude continues throughout some people’s lives: want something – pine, despair for it – achieved it and forgot about it; want something else – pine, despair for it – got it and forgot about it.

 

And He gave you from all you asked of Him. And if you should count the favour/blessings of Allah, you could not enumerate them. Indeed, mankind is most unjust and ungrateful.”
[Surah Al Ibrahim,34]

 

There is great Divine wisdom behind the concept of being pleased with Allah’s decree, known as “Al-Ridaa Bil-Qadr”. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) prayed for this blessing in one of his ‘masnoon’ dua’s. It is indeed the requisite ticket to blissful peace of mind and unparalleled contentment of soul during this world’s life.

 

O Allah I ask you for a reassured soul, that believes in meeting you, and is pleased with Your Decree, and is content with what you have bestowed .”

 

But how does one achieve this desired goal?


Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us a strategy to acquire this state;

Do not look to those above you. Look to those below you, as it will more likely remind you of Allah’s favors bestowed on you.”

(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

 

Allah [subhanahu wa taála] says;


“And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allah of His bounty. Indeed, Allah is ever, of all things Knowing.”

[Surah An Nisa,32]

 

“…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.”

[Surah Al Baqarah, 216]


Also, we are encouraged to look up to those who do good so that we can try to be like them.

 

Allah [subhanahu wa taála] says;


“Whatever you have will end, but what Allah has is lasting. And we will surely give those who were patient their reward according to the best of what they used to do. Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer — We will surely give them their reward according to the best of what they used to do.”

[Surah An Nahl, 96-97]

 

If one persistently refuses – for Allah’s sake – to wistfully or enviously look at, or think about, people who are better off than him in worldly blessings, eventually he will reach a point when he will never be bothered by, or concerned with, what others have. Instead, he will focus on the good deeds he can do that will grant him a good destination in the Hereafter – the eternal life – where happiness and blessings are everlasting, not fleeting.

 

On achieving Ridaa Bil-Qadr, an unmarried woman will not feel anything when she hears of girls younger than her getting married or having babies; a childless man will not feel any regret or rancor when his brother begets his tenth child; an old woman, who has outlived her spouse and all her children, will not feel anything when she hears of other families gathering together on Eid. They will instead be content with what Allah has decreed for them and have a kind of peace and calmness inside them that cannot be bought with all the wealth in this world.

 

Allah [subhanahu wa taála] says;


“Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” [Surah Ar Ra’d,28]


 

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