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    Muslims expect positive overtures from President
    November 26, 2019, 12:00 pm

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    by Latheef Farook


    Following the election of President Gotabaya Rajapaksa and Dinesh Gunawardena said both "Rauff Hakeem and Rishad Bathiudeen will not be part of the new government." This was repeated by both Wimal Weerawansa and Udaya Gammanpila.


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Let Children Be Children— With Emaan!

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Assalamu Alaykum,

Children are a test from Allah ‘azza wajal. Dealing with them in the right way can bring lasting rewards, and treating them wrongly can have a bad effect on your life and your hereafter. Bottom line: kids have a profound effect on your productivity!

Anas ibn Malik radiyallahu ‘anhu served the Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam during his youth and said: I served the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) for ten years. He never said to me ‘uff!’ And he never said about a thing I did, ‘why did you do that?’ And he never said about a thing I left, ‘why did you leave that?’ [At-Tirmidhi]Nobody likes to be forced into anything, especially not children! This week you’ll discover practical, productive ways to remind and advise little believers from the Quran and the Seerah. Let children be children and find out how to get your message across and nurture emaan in little souls.

In this week’s central ayah Allah azza wa jal instructs us: And remind, for verily reminders benefit the believers. [Quran, 51:55]

Productive Naseehah

Even though many people think tarbiyah means educating and teaching, it really means cultivating, growth and nurturing. Children have a fitrah (natural disposition) and it is our role to assist them to grow and build their emaan. Here are seven tricks on how to give children naseehah— advice— the productive way!

7 Communication Tricks

1. Change your explanation while keeping your cool.

Repetition is a very important way of getting a message across; Allah ‘azza wajal gives us many reminders in the Quran, like stories about the different nations, prophets, Paradise and Hellfire. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would repeat his advice three times. When it comes to children the way of repetiion is key.

Do you find yourself getting tired of repeating yourself with no result? Your child heard you the first time and by repeating yourself in the same way, you are simply training her to stop listening and wait for you to get frustrated.

Action points: Balance changing your explanation while keeping your cool. There’s a beautiful example in a father whose child was drawing on the neighbors’ gate. He became angry, rebuked the child, and ordered the child to clean it. His friend then asked him if he ever sat with his child and told him about the great rights Islam granted a neighbor!

2. Positive phrases

He never said to me ‘uff!’ (an Arabic word used to express annoyance). Do you catch yourself saying “Don’t do that!” or “Stop that!” all the time?

Action points: Phrasing your request positively can make a big difference in your child’s willingness to cooperate. For example, instead of “Don’t run!” say “Walk, please.”

 

3. Let them be in charge.

You’ll get a lot more cooperation this way. A beautiful example is how the Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam put Usaamah ibn Zayd in charge of an army when he was only eighteen; he nurtured his skills and gave him responsibility at a young age!

Action points: Put one child in charge of getting everyone ready and see how quickly it will happen! Let your child prove how capable she is.

4. Don’t say “why did you do that?”

And he never said about a thing I did, ‘why did you do that?’ If your child did something wrong, of course you have to address it. Your child most likely doesn’t even know what to answer when you’re shouting “why did you do that?” in the heat of the moment, simply because they can’t analyze their own behavior. When confronted with “why?” a lot of kids will shut down or get defensive.

Action points: Try guessing what your child might have felt and what her underlying needs are. “Did you feel angry because your sister didn’t listen to you?” She might have bitten her sibling because she needed space and was scared and didn’t know how to communicate it!

5. Be gentle with their feelings.

The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: He is not of us (the one) who does not have mercy on our young children, nor honor our elderly. [At-Tirmidhi] There are many ways we belittle kids’ feelings, like saying “It’s not a big deal!” or “Don’t cry!”

This way you’ll train them to stuff their emotions and in turn become young people who have angry outbursts. Be respectful and don’t try to convince your child their desires don’t matter.

Action point: Empathize with a child’s feelings, even as you’re saying no to his or her request. You can say: “It’s ok to cry— I’m here for you,” or “I know you really wanted to go there, but today it’s not going to work out.”

6. If you do this, I’ll give you . . .

Constantly bribing children makes them not want to cooperate simply for the sake of Allah. Teach your children that doing certain things makes Allah happy and will give them super-special gifts – hasanaat.

Action points: Offer genuine gratitude and instead of saying, “if you clean up, I will give you a sweet,” say “Thank-you so much for helping me clean up!” or remind them of times they were helpful, by saying “Remember a few weeks ago when you helped me tidy the whole room? That was such a big help. Jazaakallahu khayr!” Then let your child come to the conclusion helping out is something rewarding in itself.

7. Show them their effort counts.

Focus on your child’s effort rather than on the result, and teach them that their effort is more important than the result and that their success comes from Allah alone. This teaches children to be more persistent when they are trying a difficult task and to have more sabr– patience— when something does not work out.

Action points: Talk about the child’s effort. Instead of saying “good job,” say “You tried really hard on that!” Also avoid saying “good boy” and change it into “good choice” and emphasize that it is not the child who is good or bad, but the choices they make

Homework:

Memorize and supplicate with this beautiful dua’ from the Quran:

Rabanna hab lanaa min ’azwaajinaa wadhurriyaatinaa qurrata’a`yuniw-waj`alnaa lil-muttaqeena imaama.

Our Lord! Grant us in our wives and offspring the coolness of eyes and make us a leader of those who guard themselves against evil. [Quran, 25:74]

Anas ibn Malik radiyallahu ‘anhu said: He never insulted me at all. He never hit me at all. And he never scolded me. And he never frowned at me in my face. [al-Baghawi, al-Anwar fi Shama’il al-Nabi al-Mukhtar]

May Allah ‘azza wajal guide us to be productive and just parents, ameen!

Praying you will benefit,

Khawlah bint Yahya~ United Kingdom

THE AYAH JOURNAL is dedicated to inspiring you to open the Qur’an every day, pick one ayah, and apply it to your own life by making acting on that ayah your mission for the day. Let’s bring back the message of the Qur’an to our daily lives! Check www.ayahjournal.com.

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